What is the Bible's view of anal sex generally? Is it alright to engage in it in marriage? Is there scriptural basis to reject anal sex? The Bible does not say anything about anal sex between and a husband and wife in marriage. The same situation also exists regarding self-masturbation and oral sex in marriage.
People are asking, because they genuinely want some insight on it. My deeper hope is that through this blog post, I would encourage husbands and wives to have respectful conversations with each other about anal sex. If your spouse has shown interest in anal sex, strive to not shame them for that interest. Instead, see it as a topic the two of you need to maturely discuss. The first disclaimer I would offer is actually one I say about any sexual act other than penis-in-vagina PIV sexual intercourse. While there is overwhelming agreement among Christians that PIV sexual intercourse is not only permissible but also expected in marriage, there are varying degrees of agreement on nearly all other sexual acts or experiences in marriage.
Can a married couple have anal sex? Is it a sin to have anal sex? What is permissible? Having counseled for over twenty years, this question is fairly new among Christ-followers. I think there are at least two main reasons engaged and married couples consider this question: first and primarily, anal sex is all over pornography; and second, it is glamorized in the pop-culture media.
The second email came from a single-but-searching woman. As she explained:. Even though I am not naive to this concept, the idea espoused in the post and comments that this form of sex is more pleasurable and intense for men and more desirable than PIV intercourse turned me off men so badly that I no longer desire to get married…. There was more to that email, but basically anal sex receiving so much approbation was a huge turnoff for her. Some have used anal sex and sodomy interchangeably, but anal sex is more specific.