The definition of an orgasm is rather nebulous. But we think the best way to describe it is a release of tension, like letting out a really satisfying sigh. The size and intensity of one orgasm might be completely different from the next, depending how you happen to be feeling that day and what part s of your body is being stimulated. This is all about stimulating the glans clitoris, which visibly sits as a pea-size bundle of nerves at the tippy top of the vulva. Think of the clitoral orgasm as that friend you can call at 3 a.

If your partner has a vulva, odds are, they need more than P-in-V penetration in order to orgasm. They need direct and consistent clitoral stimulation. The clitoris has around 8, nerve endings , which is roughly double the number in a penis. The full clitoris is shaped kind of like a wishbone, and extends up to five inches inside the body.

When it comes to the clitoris, that old saying "different strokes for different folks" has never been more true. There's really not one standard type of stimulation that works for all women," says Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and the creator of Finishing School , an online orgasm course for women. And, considering orgasms aren't even on the table for many women without some clit play, figuring out what makes you tick is pretty important. To determine which brand of stimulation your body likes, she suggests starting with two different strokes: "First, try circling your clitoris with one fingertip, without directly touching it. If you want more stimulation, make your circle tighter until you start touching the clitoris itself.

For the majority of vulva-havers, clitoral stimulation will likely up the odds of orgasm more than just penetration. First, a lil anatomy lesson: your clit is the nubbin at the top of your vaginal opening so between your vagina and your belly button, if that helps GPS it for you , and there are around 8, nerve-endings which is Also, fun fact: humans are not the only animals to have clitorises! With 8, nerve-endings at the ready, the world is your oyster.